“You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you."
-Song of Solomon 4:7
The Beautifully Flawed Retreat with Bethany Hamilton brings up an important message for all of us as we live in this tent of a body, in this broken world. Focusing on the Song of Solomon, chapters 1-4, we look at the young Shulamite girl as she wrestles with her own feelings of shame and unworthiness. In Song of Solomon 1:6 the Shulamite girl says to the one she loves “Do not stare at me because I am dark, because I am darkened by the sun. My mother’s sons were angry with me and made me take care of the vineyards; my own vineyard I had to neglect.” She is focused on her flaws, and worried that her lover will focus on them too.
Finally, in chapter 4, verses 1-7, her lover responds with incredible words of affirmation. Going from the top of her head to her feet, he describes the girl as perfectly lovely. Ending it in verse 7, he says, “You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there is no flaw in you.”
This message is for all of us, as we struggle to accept our own flaws: both the kind others can see, and the ones we don’t want anyone to see. Whether we struggle to accept ourselves physically, or we struggle to overcome some sin that has “darkened” us, we ought to turn our focus on what God would say to us. For all who have turned their life to Christ and have a relationship with Him, there is no shame. God’s love for us is unconditional, and eternal. And he looks at all of us — from the top of our head to the bottom of our feet — and says, “You are altogether beautiful…there is no flaw in you.”